When Things Don't Go Our Way

I don't know about you but sometimes, when things don't go my way, I stomp my feet and get a little angry. It's like the inner 4 year old in me just decides to make an appearance. Ever been there?

We do this thing where we set expectations. I am not talking about setting goals, that is a different story and I would encourage you to set goals like crazy.

But when it comes to setting expectations, I am talking about things beyond my control or yours. Maybe it was the time that you expected to be married by a certain age. Maybe it was the time that you expected to be happy once you got straight A's, or once you moved out, or once you bought a new car. And what happens when those expectations aren't met? That's when the stomping come into play, right?

Friend, can I just ask you for a second, what if you aren't meant to get married by age 23? What if you aren't meant to move out the minute you turn 18? 

I am learning right now that it is so important to be content with where I am and I will let you in on a little secret, IT IS HARD. And let me tell ya, a million times a day that I ask myself why I'm not is a serious relationship,why I don't have a "big girl job" yet, or why I can't just move abroad.  

Then I was slapped in the face with the realization that I was never promised that I would have all of these things by the age of 19.

So for now, I will continue to set goals, but my expectations are not going to rule my emotions anymore. 

In the future, it is a goal to move up and get a job in my career field but I am not going to sit here and set a deadline on that. 

My happiness is not based on the amount of money I make or on my relationship status, and neither is yours.

Shannon HaupertComment